5 learning's in past 5 months

Five years back in 2013,  I knew I would be graduating by 2018.  I had a fair idea about how life would turn out after five years and to be very honest, it only to a small extent has tuned out to be that way. I graduated as expected in 2018 and started working in the public policy area. It is one for  which my heart used to beat most for but in midst of this and many other happenings, other things happened and I learned. I learned many many things, but to sum up, following are my five leanings in past five months.

1. You have to try. We have read this as the most quintessential advice to explore but I implemented it. I left the course I thought I would grab if I get it. I did not get the fellowship my heart wanted to from years. I took up a job in public policy because that is exactly what I wanted to. I went on two dates in a row on a single day. I got into my first relationship and did not think even twice before booking tickets to meet him for a plan after two months. Now if I look back, I just tried and tried and that is what I have decided to do this year as well. May be sometimes, this "trying" will not give the results but what if it does? Only trying can tell us these "What Ifs". 

2. Learn to adjust. First job and First relationship have two things in common: FIRST. It has it's own charm and own flaws. Everything is new and untested. Your skepticism is at the peak and you feel like throwing away everything around you.  Then, you hold on instead of giving up because you don't want to give up too fast. The expectations and ideologies I had were fulfilled and not also.  I am learning to give-in in these two new areas of my life and trying to do it with all of my heart . 

Adjusting is a double-edged sword but it will be a life-long experience because you will learn for coming times, where to adjust and where to not adjust. It is not possible to win all the arguments and that is where adjusting will bring the calmness.  This process will be  a process of new self-revelation wherein you will discover yourself because your job and relationship is important not only professional but also intimate at the same time. The effect is straightaway into the head and heart, but adjusting will teach you new things about  the world which is out of your control( your partner and job in this case)

3. Speak up.   I learned to speak in the personal and professional areas(job and relationship) where you adjust the most but you will grow and love yourself more fiercely if you speak up. Speak what your heart says and what if some people might think you are being vulnerable. It is better to let out now than in few weeks and months. Speak what your mind says. Speak what you read.  Speak the song you last heard and sing it out loud even though you are on street and guy passing you by, might think you are singing for him, but hey! you would be lucky if I sing for you buoy! But I do remember the second learning of adjusting because you cannot win all battles and you gotta let it go sometimes.

4. Say NO. Saying No has never made anyone a bad person and  never will . Importantly, I am learning( now also) to do it without guilt but you gotta do it. One has to do it for themselves and this is not a big deal and you will know, that it is worth it and you feel good when you say  "No" for both a small thing and big thing. Just learn to say no without guilt and be okay with it.

5. Write. I read a blog (Courtesy-my colleague Piyush) and ended up sharing it to friends and they loved it too. That happened because someone wrote about themselves and I have decided to write something too. So, I am done with for now one thing which I have been thinking from years but never did.

I am hoping to learn many things this year too and hope I will write it next year this time or perhaps , even before it. 

P.S. This is the blog which I mentioned in the 5th learning which my colleague suggested me, over which I have been drooling over for a month. This is a blog by Natasha Badhwar, a writer and blogger .  http://mydaughtersmum.blogspot.com/