Friends

Family is what God gives you, Partner is what you choose, Friends are the blessing God you get and choose in between.

There is no blood relation here, there is no sex here, but there is bond higher sometimes above these. We find few in school , few in college and few in acquaintances but when did finding was ever enough?

Finding an important person is never enough. So, should we hold them close and never let them go? Perhaps, we should let them go, maybe sometimes when we think we have lost them, lost our bond, but if they are yours, they will come back. 

Should we talk to them daily? Not at all. You both would get tired of talking daily. Should you talk on alternate days? I don't think so. Then when should you talk? Fix few days? Talk when you miss them, when your heart feels happiness, there is an achievement, when  suddenly something bothers you too much and you want to share your feeling to someone . It reassures them that you still call them when you are feeling anything, that they can also call you when they feel the same . But sometimes, we talk to our friends daily, sometimes not for weeks, we gotta let it flow. The time gap should not give us insecurity. Sometimes, one friend feels they are putting in more effort and other is detached but then which relationship is equal in world anyway? Your friend has not shown it, , written letter telling you how when they are about to go to sleep, they miss bothering you just like that( They miss coming into your room and talking for hours about anything. They miss going on walks with you. They miss the scooty rides to Uparwara where you used to sing , almost shouting bollywood songs. They miss an hour ride to Raipur with you. They miss talking till morning with you. They miss having street food with you. They miss getting ignored when you used to get angry for something that you did. They miss your arguments of you not talking to them? If you reflect back, what can be more sweeter and courageous that your friend asking you, why you did not talk to them. 

They miss you finishing your favorite food while sitting and cribbing about the world and you doing the same to their food. )

Some would show, some cannot help but keep it in their heart and postpone the proposal for display for indefinite time. But do they not love you when they don't display affection in the way you want them too?Well, they assume you are their friend, they take you for granted that you would come back, where can you go anyway? Should they do this? No, they should not but sometimes when they do, you gotta take them for granted too , let them wander and make new friends, they will taste the world and come back to you. 

The dynamic of each friendship is different, there are sub-groups between groups also, which happens naturally. Some would wander away, but the one's who are bound to stay, would stay. But indeed, there are few friendships which does not fit in, however hard you try, it slips out of hand by either of you without doing anything wrong . What to do for those? I have no idea for these ones.

But for the rest, tell your heart, when you feel alone for not being able to talk to them , they feel that too. But whenever you talk, fight with them, get angry at them for doing x,y,z gestures and then, forget what happened and let it go. Make new memories so that nostalgia is not all that you dwell upon.  Assure yourself that they are yours, they might get lost sometimes, you can also get lost sometimes but they would turn to you , you would turn to them and there you would find each other, standing with apology in their heart (which the mixture of ego and self-respect is stopping them to confess) and you would find your way back with them.